Moving is an effort. From locating a new place to live to informing the bank of the change of address, there are tons of details that cost time and energy. And also money. No wonder people don’t like to do it. No wonder housemates suffer a bad situation way too long!
It’s time to move when you don’t want to go home. Or if it is your home, it’s time to tell your housemate to leave. The reality is that the other person is probably as unhappy as you are. She might resist, you might resist, the necessary stress of making the transition, but my advice is there’s really no point in avoiding the inevitable. If you can’t live together, then you can’t live together.
There are lots of reasons a good situation can go bad. Sometimes it’s no one’s fault, life simply changes and the situation no longer serves. Sometimes there is a insurmountable difference. Do attempt to resolve differences before making the decision to move. Follow these guidelines to have the conversation.
Most importantly, use the bad experience to inform your next choice.
Be very, very careful in choosing a place to live and your future housemate(s) when moving. Pay attention to what you “must have” and “can’t live with.” Interview thoroughly. Know what you are looking for. Ask for references. Take your time.
Many people make their worst mistakes when they get desperate. If you are the householder, deal with having an empty room for awhile if you don’t find a good fit. For home seekers, if you can’t bide your time and really need a roof, take a place, but recognize that it is temporary until you can find something better.