“Safe!” yells the umpire as the runner slides home. Safety. It’s a primal, basic need. We need shelter where we can be free from harm. We need security and stability. These needs are so …
The Five Commandments of Keeping a Tidy Household
As someone who has lived with a series of flatmates, I learned for that initial interview to ask, "Are you neat?" Of course, everyone answers in the affirmative yet the the reality is that we have …
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Family Mode Sharing Together
"Family mode" is what Sandy calls what happens when you live with someone for a while. She lives with three housemates in an apartment in downtown Brattleboro. She says, “I’ve been co-housing all my …
Cooperative of Friends—A Lively Life
It became a cooperative. Julie and friends from college had a vision of living together. And where many of us may have enjoyed conversations where we dreamed about maybe living together, these friends …
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Feedback — Essential to Successful Home-Mating
Here is excellent article about feedback that showed up in my inbox. This one offers a slightly different twist on this most important aspect of good relationships. I'm republishing it because …
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The 3 Mistakes that Niki Made (and you might too!)
When I met Niki, she told me I should have bad housemate stories on this website. She volunteered her own two stories. Here they are with commentary from me afterwards. Niki could have avoided …
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